If you are happy and people around you are not happy, they will not allow you to stay happy. Therefore much of our happiness depends on our ability to spread happiness around us.
Dr. Madan Kataria
Well yes, I can spread happiness, but can I also see beyond the complainers and pessimists?
In the journal book, this statement said “and I can” but ended in a question mark, so I switched it for the journal. The short answer is sometimes.
When I am focused. When I am acting deliberately. When I am being mindful of who I am. I see past the negativity. Sometimes, I even make the “mistake” of trying to fix it. It seems like so many people don’t want it fixed. They don’t want another perspective. They just want to complain and think negatively. They think it has power. It does, but not the way they think.
Or should I say “we think.”
Because sometimes, I am like them. I just want to be negative and complain. Maybe things have been going against me. Maybe I just didn’t get enough sleep. Maybe traffic was bad. Maybe the convenience store was out of my favorite tea. It’s really silly. They are called “first world problems.” They aren’t even particularly “good” ones at that.
Feels kind of lame just thinking about it. That I let silly things control my mood so easily.
When and why do I complain or feel pessimistic?
I kind of answered “when.” Sometimes it’s when I am having a “bad” day. Sometimes, I fall in with the crowd, as Dr. Kataria warns against.
Why do I do it? Well probably because at that moment, it feels easier than actually taking the steps necessary to properly resolve the situation. Even if it means just sucking it up and being happy that they have 6 more types of tea to choose from.
I know, in my heart, that I am a very fortunate individual. I have many, many wonderful people in my life, and many, many opportunities being presented all the time. I like being the positive guy. There is a guy at work that when asked, always says “It’s the best day ever.” Every day. Even when he is sick. No argument, no logic will dissuade him from this truth. Every day is the best day ever.
And I think I finally get it. Because every day you get to add on to all the good you have already experienced.